Dead Ants, Whipped Cream, and Batman

September 6, 2012

Topic suggested by Chris LaVrar :-) ~ Romance

I don't even know what the heck romance is. Well, maybe I do. The funny thing about romance is it's an entirely personal matter. And there's two sides to the romantic equation. And what's being offered isn't always what's being received.

Let me expand a bit. If I gave someone a dozen roses...I would consider that a romantic gesture. If that person was allergic to roses or just didn't like flowers...my romantic gesture would not be appreciated. In the case of an allergy, I would end up causes the recipient to feel bad.

Romantic intentions. Causing someone else's soul to feel cared for...loved. When what is given is what is received (or even better...when what is received is felt more than what is given)...those are the moments we remember forever.

Since the topic is romance, I get to retreat to a place where I am remembering those moments that made me feel like I was on top of the world. And since this is my post, I want to share some of the moments that have stood out over time. The most romantic gestures for me.

~ As everyone knows, I love music. Love. A few times in my life, I've had a few songs written for / inspired by me. Having someone sing me a song they wrote for me...well that just melts my heart.

~One of my best memories is coming home and having rose petals spread out throughout the house. In a certain section...they spelled I LOVE YOU. It was awesome...except for the million ants that came into the house atop the rose petals. There was a mad dash to remove all the flowers and annihilate the unwelcome ants. Now, this could have been a case of an unappreciated gesture...but we laughed so hard that it became one of the best moments ever. It was the laughter...the contentment of sweeping away the ants...it was the unexpected gesture that made for great romance.

~Sitting atop a brick wall, sounds of seals in the background...and having a new love entrust me with his late fathers ring. It wasn't the ring that was what made my heart skip a beat, but the fact that he trusted me.

~Favorite all time first date gesture...I was brought a bottle of diet coke (since I wasn't a big drinker) and a can of whipped cream (just in case). I don't know why, but that one always sticks out in my head. And no, that whipped cream was not used...but it was nonetheless greatly appreciated.

~Unexpected sweet gestures. Getting a cup of coffee brought to you when you're working late (and the best is when they know how you take your coffee). Waking up on a cold day and finding that your love went to the garage to start the car for you and get the heater working before you left for work.

~My most recent favorite moment...when I was repaving my driveway and...while it was still wet...being brought a Batman symbol mold so I could imprint the wet cement with my beloved Batman.

So romance is what you make of it. Everyone sees things differently. What's romantic is finding that one thing that makes another person feel special.

Thank you Chris for the topic. By the way...for any readers out there...Chris LaVrar is an amazing freestyle rapper. He was featured this season on America's Got Talent. If you get a chance, check him out.